My question is in layers, the first is should I attempt the long journey? The second layer is if I do go how can I protect myself from his malevolence and anything she may throw at me (in the magikal sense) as I said she is a lady of honour ,duty and commitment and it is likely that anything I try with him there is a chance that in defence of her sons father she may feel duty bound to try and stop me from harming him (though I carried the sword and practised martial arts in the past, I now abhor violence) by binding me or worse,how do I protect myself from her abilities?
I am but a novice, but I cannot live without her, my life has always felt it was missing a piece and being in love with her and the many dreams that have come since, I find it near impossible that I can ever be at peace without her. Please excuse the length of this request for help. Blessed Be.
ANSWER - I cannot doubt the sincerity or the passion of your love, but to be honest, your question comes across as a bit of a dichotomy. On the one hand you talk about this man manipulating and threatening your lover, but on the other hand you say she is a powerful witch. There’s an incongruity here. If she is as powerful as you claim she is, then surely she can summon up the power to leave the relationship. I’ve got to question if she is as committed to you as you are to her. I know that hurts, but believe me an experienced witch would have little difficulty extracting herself from a relationship she no longer wishes to be in.
My advice to you is to seek from the lady herself whether she wants to be with you. Write her a letter and ask her to be honest with you about whether she thinks the two of you have a future. Tell her you are prepared to give it your all and support her all the way but you need to know if she genuinely wants to be with you. If she cannot show you the same level of commitment then no, I don't think you should undertake the journey. I can see little to be gained from pursuing her if she is adamant a relationship between the two of you will not work. She may well stay with the man from duty and not love, but that is her choice and if you respect her the way you say you do, you must respect that she has the right to make her choices independently of what you believe to be right or wrong.
As a believer in reincarnation, I believe we often come across a person in one life time to whom we are drawn but that it may not necessarily be this lifetime that provides the opportunity for that person to play an integral part of our lives. It is entirely possible that this woman is someone who has played a big part in your past and may well do so again in your future, but in this particular incarnation it is not to be. This may well be what you are seeing in your dreams. The fact that a relationship is not to be in this lifetime does not invalidate what you may have shared in the past and what you may well share again. If you think of each lifetime as learning a different lesson, this could well be your opportunity to learn to be comfortable within yourself before joining with this woman again, perhaps in your next incarnation.
I would caution against seeing another person as the missing piece of who you are. You are a whole and integrated being. It is a wonderful thing to share love with others but essentially you need no person to complete you, you are complete in yourself. By taking a step back from the situation and allowing yourself to strengthen you will be better prepared to tackle whatever comes of this situation. I would also add that if you take the time to concentrate on building your own strength you will also come across as a more attractive prospect than this rather needy man the lady in question appears to be married to.
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