ANSWER: We are not a coven. A coven is a group of people who choose to worship, learn and practice their faith as a group. While we do offer resources for you to use in learning about Paganism and engaging in your faith practices, we do so for all, whether you choose to join a group, be solitary or a combination of the two.
So, a little advice for anyone thinking of joining a coven!
- You are under absolutely no obligation to do anything that makes you uncomfortable.
- You always have the right to say no, even if a ritual or activity has already begun.
- When choosing a group, you don’t have to make the decision quickly. Sharing your faith and inner spirituality with one person, never mind a group, is a deeply personal and brave thing to do and you should feel comfortable with every member of that group.
- Feel confident in asking questions. No safe coven will ever mind you asking any questions that you need to ask to make the decision on whether to join them but they may also expect you to answer some questions to find out if you’re a good fit for them too! Neither side should take a “rejection” personally. Fitting in this way can take some time and if more people took these steps, they may find a better fit sooner rather than trying to fit where they don’t really belong. Everyone has their tribe, it’s worth taking your time to find it if necessary.
- Skyclad (or nude) work is never something you should feel pressured to do. Consent is an important part of any community but the nature of the Pagan community means that empowering yourself to assert your right to consent is very important as we don’t have the traditional avenues that other faith groups have to support us in this (for more information on how the Pagan Federation can support you in these issues, see their website paganfed.org or find them on Facebook).
- You do not have to be part of a coven or group to be a witch or Pagan. There are solitary practitioners in most faiths and Paganism is no different. You don’t have to ever speak to another Pagan to be Pagan. I personally enjoy being a part of my faith community but I still do all my study, worship and practices alone for the majority of the time.
I hope this helps! You can always get in touch again if you need more info!