“I place this dry sponge out of sight
To keep my child dry tonight,”
For the visualisation, imagine the sand or sponge absorbing the need for your child to go to the toilet. Visualise the child calm and sleeping peacefully and create a very definite image in your mind of the morning sun rising on the perfectly dry bed. Make a clear mental association between what you are doing (i.e. putting sand under the bed) and what you are going to achieve from doing it.
Right, that’s the spell work out of the way and I have to say I don’t think spell work is going to be your best solution here. With children sometimes the suggestion of magic can be just as effective as the real thing. If you can harness the belief of the child to work as a focus for your magic it will probably work better than casting a spell with your own intent. The trick is to get the child to believe. This isn’t employing magic as much as using psychology to create a placebo effect but I think in these circumstances this is what will work the best. There are a couple of different ways to do this. You could employ the idea of the “magic spray” where you fill a bottle with water, make a show of putting some drops of “magic” oil (lavender) and lightly spray onto the bed clothes with the explanation that the “magic” spray will keep the covers dry. You could also try giving the child a “charmed” bracelet and explain that as long as they are wearing it they will be protected from wetting the bed.
You could blend genuine magic and psychology by involving your child in the working of an actual spell and getting them to create their own visualisation of the dry bed. This depends of course on whether you wish your child to become involved in practising magic. The spell in my opinion would work better with the involvement of the child but you’re the parent and that is your call.
On a less directly magical level but nevertheless using the child’s own natural power – try stimulating their mind to hold images of contained water, bottles jars, anything that creates a sense of power and control over the liquid. Get your child to play at being a bottle and imagine themselves as firmly putting on the top of the bottle before bed. Remind them that they are in control over when they choose to release the liquid and that they will do so when they choose to and not before. Giving the child the sense that they can control their own bladder will create a desire in them to do so even on a sub conscious level and this may well lead to them naturally taking control over their night time urination.
I’d strongly suggest you try changing the child’s bedding to something “cute” and lovable, particularly if you can get an actual sheet for the bed with characters on it. Children will be less inclined to “desecrate” the bed if they perceive it as personalised. And make a big thing of the new bedding – make them feel proud of it.
I can’t remember where I got this from but I heard an excellent tale of a woman who told her nine year old daughter that it didn’t matter she wet the bed as only little girls wet the bed and big ten year old girls would never do such a thing. Unsurprisingly come her tenth birthday the child never wet the bed again. The power of suggestion, it’s a potent magic of its own.
Incidentally, I wet the bed a lot as a child and I distinctly remember it was because I was too tired to get out of bed. Make sure that your child is getting enough sleep and, without imposing punitive sanctions which will be entirely counter productive anyway, make sure that they are aware how tired it is making you to get out of the bed and change their bedding every night. Sometimes a little altruism will achieve what all the magic in the world cannot…
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