Backstory for why my pendulum is above my bed: it was the weekend after Valentine’s day, so I wanted to make sure my bedroom looked very romantic and I put a lot of planning, energy, and love into that, and to make it better, he surprised me by arriving a day earlier.
Anyway, I appreciate the positive sexual energy of this event, but I need to calm it down. Please help.
Note: I do practice being in tune nature more than my stones, mainly because I am often outside way more and my medication hinders me from connecting with the stones... I have to be off my medication to do so.
ANSWER: Firstly, thank you for your question and secondly, the answer to this could either be real world or energy based so I’ll cover both here.
The real-world answer is that it is possible your sexual needs aren’t being met through this long-distance relationship and so you are left wanting more when he leaves for home. It is a difficult kind of relationship to maintain sometimes and especially when there are big gaps of time between visits. You may find that your horny behaviour disappears with some time but in the meantime, it would still be advisable to honour your needs unless it becomes a problem and interferes with other life aspects that are important to you. If this is what is happening, then it may also be advisable to seek out a therapist experienced in sexual matters who can help you to dig deeper into the causes.
I wonder have you asked him if he’s experiencing the same upturn in his sexual needs after his visit or if his needs have changed in some way? It would certainly be worth talking to him about it for further exploration in the magical realms of reasons. It may be that you have connected so deeply to him during your intimate moments that you have maybe picked up his own depth of need through empathy, something which Malachite in particular can enhance.
My advice here would be to first explore the “real-world” options first. Talk to your partner and find out what his experiences have been since his visit to see if any light can be thrown on the situation. Once all that is done, if things aren’t improving for you then the first of the magical things to try would be to cleanse the space and any objects within it. You can do this be simply actually cleaning the space or if you prefer use sage or another cleansing herb, or a cleansing room spray. This would hopefully remove any connections to any negative causes that are having a less than positive effect on you. The second would be to find a cutting ties meditation that you can follow to sever any ties that are causing behaviour that is negatively impacting other aspects of your life. Obviously, I don’t mean that you should cut ties with your significant other, just whatever connection has caused this increase in your sexual needs.
I don't think any of this is linked especially to your pendulum, though Malachite does enhance love and affection it is more linked to heightening spiritual awareness and protection against negative energies than anything sexual in nature.
I hope this helps!