ANSWER - I'm not entirely sure of everything you're asking but I am sure that witches can be male or female, there is no gender. Wizards and Warlocks are an invention of Hollywood and fairy tales, not nature so, if you're a male witch then that's what you are! :)
As to spells etc, spells need only one thing, not candles, not texts, not rhymes and incense and magical fairy dust; they need intent. So, whether you're a boy, a girl or a donkey, intent is all you need.
I'd be wary of anyone offering to "teach" you anything, especially at a cost. Here on this website there are lists of resources that you can access that enable you to read and think for yourself. This is the only true way to learn, especially if you're Pagan. It's your path and you determine it and where it goes... So, my advice to you would be to read as much as you can but with an open mind, don't let the author sway you, go with what feels right and see where it takes you.