
Question 2. My husband is not caring and loving, all he want is to have sex, eat and drink. He will easily go behind any lady and influenced by outside people. Not even caring for my kids. He feels happy when any outsider is there but not with our family. Please guide me how can I save my marriage.
ANSWER - I am very sorry to hear of these troubles which sound like they are making your life very difficult indeed. It is however very tricky to advise in this case as the culture you are a part of is very different from the culture of my own personal background. My advice to a woman who lives in a culture where divorce is an option would be to kick the husband out and find a man who would treat her better and with the respect she deserves. Your mother does not deserve a man who messes around with the maid. However as you specify in your question your mother is of an age and in a culture where divorce is not something she is able to consider so we perhaps need to explore other options here.
From a practical perspective I would suggest you speak to your father and tell him how unhappy he is making your mother. Explain that his actions are humiliating her and hurting you and you need him to be more considerate of your feelings. I don’t really expect him to listen from what you say about him but I always feel practical solutions should be explored fully in addition to any magical solutions imposed.
If your father is reluctant to mend his ways then I think you would be best off looking at performing a binding on the maid. Have a look at the link at the bottom which will talk you through how to work a basic binding spell. My suggestion would be that you incorporate some element of binding her from staying in the family home so that she is unable to continue her relationship with your father.
In terms of your own situation I think it is a different set of rules. You are younger and even in your culture it is more socially acceptable to look at leaving your husband. I’m not necessarily suggesting you kick him straight out but I am suggesting that you make him aware this is a very definite possibility. If the man is taking you for granted he may well buck up his ideas if he feels there is a chance he will lose you. Again, talk him. Tell him his behaviour is not acceptable. If he listens to you and he wants to save his marriage he will make the effort. If he isn’t bothered then to be honest your marriage isn’t worth saving. In this instance seek some support to make the steps to leave him and strike out on your own. There is a lot of information on the internet to support with this but if you struggle to find any your local place or worship or your local police will point you in the right direction.
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