As in many fairy tales i have heard of a kiss being able to break a curse. However could one be the very source of the curse to begin with?
To understand why I have asked, I am not having very good luck in finding my so called true love if one should such exist. I have felt it, but I have not been able to hold onto it for very long. It seems to be that every person I feel deeply for leaves me and then ends up having happily ever after with the next person they meet. I know it sounds like the plot line to good luck chuck. Lately though, it seems to be the almost exact scenario. Leading me to believe that I am cursed from finding love and wanting to track down the original source of the curse. My very first kiss. So is this possible?
ANSWER - As you mentioned, curses are everywhere on Fairy Tales. Usually used to keep two lovers apart, so the person casting the curse can get what they desire, which is typically revenge. Usually alongside every curse in Fairy Tales is also a way to break them; ‘Loves First Kiss’ in Sleeping Beauty and Snow White is the most well known way to break a curse. Which kind of makes me think the Evil Queen and Maleficent didn't actually want to curse Aurora and Snow White forever, seeing as they were both aware the Princesses had fallen in love before the curses actually took power, so in turn they knew the curses could potentially be broken! (But that’s a totally different subject to head down)
You say that you feel like you could be cursed from finding true love as such, yet you have also mentioned that you have indeed felt it but haven't been able to keep a hold of it. This makes me wonder if you feeling like you are cursed is maybe just a fear of more relationships going wrong in the same way. I say this, not to belittle you or dismiss the way you feel, but mainly because of you saying you feel ‘Cursed’ instead of saying ‘Unlucky in love’ which is generally the phrase used when recurring relationship issues are happening.
A curse is a specific action (usually a negative one) cast against a person or persons and usually as a result of somebody wanting direct revenge for some reason or other. So for you to believe you are cursed, raises the question of why? Why would anybody want to actually curse you?
Curses take a LOT of preparation and time to make sure it is ironclad so to speak and they aren't undertaken lightly.
In regards to all the times you have said you have ‘felt’ true love, but for whatever reasons, it didn't work out (and your ex’s generally found their happy ever afters with their next relationships), have you maybe considered that it isn't a case of you being cursed, but just a case of ‘Mr or Mrs Wrong’! By this I mean in the sense of the two of you were just not meant to be. The general theory and Beliefs on ‘True Love’ are that you will meet a person and everything feels right and you will be in love like nothing before and you will be happily together for the rest of your days through thick and thin! So, using this belief, would maybe indicate that all of the times you have felt true love, have been real, but the person wasn't your ‘genuine’ true love. They weren’t actually 100% suitable in the long term for you, which is why they never stayed and also why they then went on to find their happy ending with the next person they fell in love with.
Maybe all of these people have been ‘right’ in some ways, but not fully and maybe in going through the same thing over and over in relationships is on some parts a life lesson for you. Not that you’re cursed as such? But that you are possibly being led towards actually finding your true love, not just somebody who ticks of 9
out of 10 boxes at the time!
The beliefs behind true love also say that you won’t find it if you are looking for it. The typical “it was the person I least expected it to be” and also that you have to “kiss a few frogs before you find your prince”.
So maybe it isn't that you are personally curses from finding your true love. Maybe it’s just a case that the one person who is your true love, hasn't come into your life yet because you’re not ready for them! Not to mention the whole ‘Laws of Attraction’. That what you put out is what you get back, so if you believe you are cursed and you aren't going to find love, then you will be potentially blocking the Universe from sending it your way!
You also mention wanting to track down the ‘original source of the curse’, which you said was your first kiss. Why do you believe that your first kiss is in-fact the source of your curse? Is this just generally because your relationships afterwards have not worked out? Or is there some other reason you believe they cursed you? Also, why would your first kiss (and I’m presuming they were also your first love too) want to put a curse on you on the first place? If they did, they would have to be pretty specific about the workings of the curse, for you to them go through life since, being in relationships that never worked out. That is an awful lot of effort from somebody who was your first kiss, as usually our ‘firsts’ aren't generally lifelong relationships, they would know it wasn't going to last forever, so it doesn't make sense as to why they would curse you using the first ever kiss you shared, unless there was reason for it so to speak.
As I mentioned before, a curse is usually cast as a way of direct revenge. So again it raises the question of why?
Having said all of this, I understand why you would feel inclined to believe you are in fact cursed, yet without any further information I would personally say it is rather just a case of those relationships not being right for you. Because for the person you had your first kiss with to curse you, in a way that all your following relationships after them would never work out, is a very big leap as such, unless you had definitive proof! Mainly due to all the factors involved within a curse, as they would have to have been VERY specific about things like time limits for the curse, any emotional problems they would want your relationships to suffer from; specific ways they would want the relationship to break down, etc. Not to mention if you were cursed EVERY relationship would end in EXACTLY the same situation/scenario and time!
Curses are actually very complex and not at all easy to cast successfully! It isn't just a case of lighting a black candle and burning a photo saying “I curse you to never have a relationship again after me”, as that’s way too vague and won’t really do much damage without specifics. Like any magickal workings, curses need specifics to be fully effective!
I honestly believe that we all meet our true love when it is right, not when we want to or are searching for it. Especially as we don't technically know what our true love is! Yes we know our preferences on appearance and what personal traits we want in a partner, yet we don't actually know true love until it finds us (and generally stays with us no matter what we go through).
As previously mentioned, without having any further information (e.g.: why do you think it’s your first kiss who has cursed you? Were there any factors within each relationship that were the same, causing them to break down? Were there any obvious similarities between all your relationships/partners?), it would seem that is it most likely just a case of incompatible relationships rather than being cursed. I am sure that in time you will meet your true love when you least expect to and that you will finally get the happy ever after you seek so much!
In the meantime, if you want to discuss this any further or there are any other questions you might have, then please don't hesitate to contact me and I will help in any way I possibly can.
The Vintage Witch