QUESTION - I need help to unbind my magic. I am a 19 year old male witch. To my knowledge I’m a fourth generation witch. I have a strong gift of empathy. I came into the craft when I was about eight years old my mother was supportive. When I turned 11 I had serious anger issues and in one of my “fits” there was a tornado. I think my mom believes that my magic had something to do with it, so she bound my magic. The thing is my magic is slowly breaking through the spell but it’s driving me crazy because I have no control over my gifts! I either have to have full control of my gift or bind my powers completely!
ANSWER - Without knowing what it is you actually want to do in regards to either binding your powers fully or learning to control them…it is slightly difficult to answer your question, but I will go ahead and just answer it as if we are looking at both scenarios.
So…if we look at wanting to fully bind your gifts first, there are lots of different ways that this can be done. But more importantly it raises the question as to “why?”. Why did your mother not only feel the need to bind your powers or gifts but also in a pretty permanent way (if they are only slowly beginning to show again through the binding after so many years then her castings must have been pretty powerful & precise). If as you say at 11 years old you had “anger” issues, how bad did these get? Were there any other incidents as you grew up that gave your mother any reason to think or believe that your powers were harmful? Without fully knowing the reasons as to why your mother chose to cast a binding against you, it is pretty hard to fully answer this part. However I will quickly mention a few bits about Bindings and how they can be cast if that’s what you chose to do.
Binding spells usually take something away, usually someone’s ability to do something. People usually cast a binding spell against somebody who is hurting or bothering them to make them stop. You can also cast a binding spell on yourself to help you break a bad habit or negative behaviour.
Binding spells can also cause physical problems for you like feeling “stuck” but not knowing why, feeling like you are being ‘restricted’ by something unseen and lots of other afflictions that you cant really explain. Binding spells can be used for lots of different purposes- can bind forces of nature, spirits and even people. They can also be used to reduce someone’s influence upon you. They aren’t the same as curses, where you inflict harm on another person. They are also similar to protection spells which are meant to protect you from bad things occurring. Binding spells are typically used on people who are acting abusive towards others.
Here is a basic Binding Spell that can be used by yourself if you wish to bind your gifts instead of wishing to learn to control them. I was given this by a very close witch friend of mine and I find that it works really well. For the binding spell which is pretty much a basic, all round type ( which can be used for almost any binding purpose) you will need
- Pieces of lightweight cardboard/paper
- Black pen/pencil
- Black candle (used for Banishing)
- Black yarn/string
- Fireproof dish (or a saucepan if your anything like me and you don’t have any fancy cauldron etc)
Cast a strong protective circle around yourself and all participants before you begin. Take the pieces of cardboard/paper and write words on it to represent what you are wishing to banish. For your situation maybe write things like “my gifts/powers” etc. take a piece of black yarn/thread and wind it around the pieces of cardboard/paper 9 times, whilst saying out loud what it is that you wish to banish, with each time you wrap it around. Tie off the ends of the yarn with 3 sturdy knots to seal the spell. When you have done this with all the pieces, burn them and say these words until they have burned away to ashes “Goddess of darkest night, send my troubles all to flight, burn them in your sacred fires and replace them with my hearts desires.”. Once they are all burnt, do a positive visualization of yourself without the situation, you have banished, to replace the negative of what you have removed.
I think that before you decided to do a banishment to keep your powers at bay for good, you would have to seriously think about whether or not this something you want to do, as it would affect your life in lots of different ways, spiritual and physical, so that would be something you would have to be fully sure of (but you can always reverse the binding if you chose to do so later down the line).
In regards to having full control over your gifts, as an Empath, there are ways that you can learn to control this or build upon what you already know. Meditations can help you find out the extent of your gifts and ways that you can work with them, there are lots of guided meditations available online or you could just get yourself into a meditative state and do some guided writing after asking for guidance on your gifts etc. you can research into Empathy and how to live with the gifts in your everyday life (this is something I have personally done and found it very useful, in terms of blocking whilst out in public and also for ways of coping with all the emotions/moods I was picking up from other people, as this can also be a very difficult situation to cope with as sometimes it can get very overwhelming). Grounding techniques are very useful for empaths, as this helps to keep your ‘head’ whilst dealing with having these gifts. (again these can be found online).
I personally, as a fellow witch, would rather try to control my gifts and learn to use and cope with them in my everyday life rather than bind my gifts, but it is obviously your own personal choice as to which way you would like to go. But I would suggest maybe journaling the pro’s and con’s of each choice, to work out which you would rather do and why. As witchcraft and our gifts are after all our own personal paths and ways that we chose to live. Then one you have done that you could maybe make a better judgement on what you want to do.
I hope this helps you, please feel free to contact me again if you would like any further information or would like to discuss this further.