QUESTION - I’ve been searching for a place where I can intuitively find my way through my own life by harnessing the forces around us and within me, I just don’t know where to start. How do I perform a spell? How do I learn or retrieve these herbs? I just need a starting point. I can do oracle cards and dowsing, I can feel spirits around me and sometimes I can communicate with them. I‘m very intuitive and slightly clairvoyant. I just don’t know how to take the next step, can you help me?
The starting point is confidence. There is no right or wrong way to perform a spell. A spell is simply an actualisation of your own will. Instead of thinking ‘How do I cast a spell…” Start to think: “What do I want to achieve and what resources do I have that will enable me to cast a spell...” I am not a big fan of just doing magic for the sake of it and I find that it is far easier to cast when you have a decisive purpose and a genuine desire to achieve your end goal.
So start with introspection. What kind of things are you looking to change with the use of magic? What are your goals? What spells would you like to perform? What is the end result you are after?
Then think about what resources you already have. Yes you can buy herbs that are solely for magical purposes but you will undoubtedly already have a stock of herbs used for culinary purposes. I don’t think there is any herb I use more in my own craft practise than Basil. It may also be a good idea to grow some herbs on your windowsill as a nurturing relationship with the plant can also bring positives to your magic.
Basic correspondence tables are all over the internet and published on this site too - here – but I would always advise that you use these as a guideline rather than a definitive. Rather than buy the ingredients for a spell, tailor your spell to ingredients you already have. This really gets you thinking as a witch. Think about what you have and how it could be used. To give you some basic ideas from how I’ve used my own kitchen - I’ve glued together egg shells to keep secrets, frozen wax poppets to slow people down, used kitchen salt to make salt water for cleansing and recycled polystyrene packaging for protection workings. (I was also rather delighted the other day when my husband exploded the glass door of the oven as those pressure shattered fragments will definitely come in useful for something one day!)
We used to play a game on a witch forum I’m on where we would give one another three ingredients and an end goal and challenge one another on how we would use those ingredients and tools to work the spell. Do this as you walk around your home. See everything you possess as an object with new possibilities for your craft. I promise you this will help get you thinking in a way that will start to establish good foundations for spell work.
Don’t be afraid to take the plunge and get hands on. Too many witches spend their time worrying about how to cast and never pluck up the confidence to get on with it. Yes you’ll make a few mistakes along the way and certainly everything won’t always turn out exactly how you expect but witchcraft is like anything else, you do get better at it with practise.
QUESTION- Hello my name is Lucy and I'm currently fourteen years old. I know I am young but I would love to be a part of the craft. I am fully aware that Witchcraft can take years to master but would love to get started now.
I am wondering how I can start my journey into the craft. I've ordered some tarot cards and have been doing a lot of research but would like your personal opinion on where would be a good place to start. I would love to cast my first spell in the New Year and was wondering if that would be okay.
ANSWER - I do not think age is all that relevant to starting a craft path and my own view is that the energies of the teenage years can be very beneficial in spell work. My only concern relating to your age would be that there are some unscrupulous people who do take advantage of younger persons so I would suggest personally that you practise as a solitary until you have gained enough experience to tell the genuine practitioners from the charlatans who seek to exploit enthusiasm about witchcraft for their own ends.
You are right that witchcraft can take years to master but the process is a gradual one of learning and practise. Sometimes people confuse the study of the craft with an academic profession like medicine. A doctor will do all his/her studying before applying that knowledge in a practical field. Witchcraft is different – you are learning on the job. Anybody who tells you that you need years of reading behind you before you cast your first spell is wrong. You will learn from a combination of reading the wisdom of others, your own experiences and your own intuition.
I actually feel that too much book learning up front can be a disadvantage as it will colour your way of thinking and encourage you to follow the paths others have trodden rather than using your intuition to forge your own. Yes it helps to understand the basics but there is no substitute for thinking for yourself and having the confidence to develop your own methods of working.
Tarot is an excellent beginning. I would suggest doing a card a day to familiarise yourself with the deck and also to get some daily guidance on your path. Don’t just pick a card and read the meanings though, really think about the card you have drawn and how it is relevant to you. There are also many sites on the internet where you can get other thoughts and opinions on the tarot cards. I’d suggest keeping a Tarot journal where you collect different meanings and your own thoughts and interpretations for future reference.
I think the best place to start is by getting into some good practises. Learn how to centre, ground and shield here and start to work with energy. By this I specifically mean gathering and focus your energy. Think about yourself and what has meaning for you and start to create some visualisations that mean something to you personally. Use these visualisations to guide you through regular practises of dumping negative energies back into the earth, raising new energy, using that energy to protect yourself and focusing on different methods of casting that energy out into the world to do your bidding.
This should give you some idea of how you are going to practise as a witch. Some witches employ the visualisation of the smoke from fire carrying their messages into the world, others may use the wind or the water. (Don’t be afraid to personalise the world you are creating in your mind, do what feels natural for you. Some of my finest magic has been preceded by a raising energy session that involves the mental exercise of me Irish dancing in my Grandmother’s old house. This is about you.) When you have these mental basics established in place then there is no reason at all why you should not consider spell work. (And even these basics are just a guide and to an extent my own opinion. There are no prerequisites to magic.)
Keep spells simple to start with – have a read of these articles for the basics:
Does magic really work and if so how?
If I study very hard can I call myself a witch?
Let us know the progress you make and how your first spells go.
QUESTION - Could a kiss enact the beginning of a curse?
As in many fairy tales i have heard of a kiss being able to break a curse. However could one be the very source of the curse to begin with?
To understand why I have asked, I am not having very good luck in finding my so called true love if one should such exist. I have felt it, but I have not been able to hold onto it for very long. It seems to be that every person I feel deeply for leaves me and then ends up having happily ever after with the next person they meet. I know it sounds like the plot line to good luck chuck. Lately though, it seems to be the almost exact scenario. Leading me to believe that I am cursed from finding love and wanting to track down the original source of the curse. My very first kiss. So is this possible?
ANSWER - As you mentioned, curses are everywhere on Fairy Tales. Usually used to keep two lovers apart, so the person casting the curse can get what they desire, which is typically revenge. Usually alongside every curse in Fairy Tales is also a way to break them; ‘Loves First Kiss’ in Sleeping Beauty and Snow White is the most well known way to break a curse. Which kind of makes me think the Evil Queen and Maleficent didn't actually want to curse Aurora and Snow White forever, seeing as they were both aware the Princesses had fallen in love before the curses actually took power, so in turn they knew the curses could potentially be broken! (But that’s a totally different subject to head down)
You say that you feel like you could be cursed from finding true love as such, yet you have also mentioned that you have indeed felt it but haven't been able to keep a hold of it. This makes me wonder if you feeling like you are cursed is maybe just a fear of more relationships going wrong in the same way. I say this, not to belittle you or dismiss the way you feel, but mainly because of you saying you feel ‘Cursed’ instead of saying ‘Unlucky in love’ which is generally the phrase used when recurring relationship issues are happening.
A curse is a specific action (usually a negative one) cast against a person or persons and usually as a result of somebody wanting direct revenge for some reason or other. So for you to believe you are cursed, raises the question of why? Why would anybody want to actually curse you?
Curses take a LOT of preparation and time to make sure it is ironclad so to speak and they aren't undertaken lightly.
In regards to all the times you have said you have ‘felt’ true love, but for whatever reasons, it didn't work out (and your ex’s generally found their happy ever afters with their next relationships), have you maybe considered that it isn't a case of you being cursed, but just a case of ‘Mr or Mrs Wrong’! By this I mean in the sense of the two of you were just not meant to be. The general theory and Beliefs on ‘True Love’ are that you will meet a person and everything feels right and you will be in love like nothing before and you will be happily together for the rest of your days through thick and thin! So, using this belief, would maybe indicate that all of the times you have felt true love, have been real, but the person wasn't your ‘genuine’ true love. They weren’t actually 100% suitable in the long term for you, which is why they never stayed and also why they then went on to find their happy ending with the next person they fell in love with.
Maybe all of these people have been ‘right’ in some ways, but not fully and maybe in going through the same thing over and over in relationships is on some parts a life lesson for you. Not that you’re cursed as such? But that you are possibly being led towards actually finding your true love, not just somebody who ticks of 9
out of 10 boxes at the time!
The beliefs behind true love also say that you won’t find it if you are looking for it. The typical “it was the person I least expected it to be” and also that you have to “kiss a few frogs before you find your prince”.
So maybe it isn't that you are personally curses from finding your true love. Maybe it’s just a case that the one person who is your true love, hasn't come into your life yet because you’re not ready for them! Not to mention the whole ‘Laws of Attraction’. That what you put out is what you get back, so if you believe you are cursed and you aren't going to find love, then you will be potentially blocking the Universe from sending it your way!
You also mention wanting to track down the ‘original source of the curse’, which you said was your first kiss. Why do you believe that your first kiss is in-fact the source of your curse? Is this just generally because your relationships afterwards have not worked out? Or is there some other reason you believe they cursed you? Also, why would your first kiss (and I’m presuming they were also your first love too) want to put a curse on you on the first place? If they did, they would have to be pretty specific about the workings of the curse, for you to them go through life since, being in relationships that never worked out. That is an awful lot of effort from somebody who was your first kiss, as usually our ‘firsts’ aren't generally lifelong relationships, they would know it wasn't going to last forever, so it doesn't make sense as to why they would curse you using the first ever kiss you shared, unless there was reason for it so to speak.
As I mentioned before, a curse is usually cast as a way of direct revenge. So again it raises the question of why?
Having said all of this, I understand why you would feel inclined to believe you are in fact cursed, yet without any further information I would personally say it is rather just a case of those relationships not being right for you. Because for the person you had your first kiss with to curse you, in a way that all your following relationships after them would never work out, is a very big leap as such, unless you had definitive proof! Mainly due to all the factors involved within a curse, as they would have to have been VERY specific about things like time limits for the curse, any emotional problems they would want your relationships to suffer from; specific ways they would want the relationship to break down, etc. Not to mention if you were cursed EVERY relationship would end in EXACTLY the same situation/scenario and time!
Curses are actually very complex and not at all easy to cast successfully! It isn't just a case of lighting a black candle and burning a photo saying “I curse you to never have a relationship again after me”, as that’s way too vague and won’t really do much damage without specifics. Like any magickal workings, curses need specifics to be fully effective!
I honestly believe that we all meet our true love when it is right, not when we want to or are searching for it. Especially as we don't technically know what our true love is! Yes we know our preferences on appearance and what personal traits we want in a partner, yet we don't actually know true love until it finds us (and generally stays with us no matter what we go through).
As previously mentioned, without having any further information (e.g.: why do you think it’s your first kiss who has cursed you? Were there any factors within each relationship that were the same, causing them to break down? Were there any obvious similarities between all your relationships/partners?), it would seem that is it most likely just a case of incompatible relationships rather than being cursed. I am sure that in time you will meet your true love when you least expect to and that you will finally get the happy ever after you seek so much!
In the meantime, if you want to discuss this any further or there are any other questions you might have, then please don't hesitate to contact me and I will help in any way I possibly can.
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