QUESTION - I have been divorced for 10 years. He was abusive to me and then to the children. Legally he has no access to us but keeps taking me to court and is constantly creating blocks for me (career, relationships, etc.), as well as tapping into my bank records, stalking, etc. I believe the only reason he still has any power left to penetrate any protection I put in place is because we never "undid" the marriage bond. Please note, I did not fall in love with this man - we had a semi-arranged marriage. Now, I am planning a ritual/spell to be done during the full moon next week and have considered using my blood in my work to completely sever any bonds and protect us from him once and for all. I know blood binds but can I use it to unbind?
 
ANSWER - I agree with your point that while there is a marriage bond he has a link that he can use to manipulate you. However without fuller details I am not sure how you are planning to use your own blood for an unbinding. I get the sense that you want to use the power of blood in a spell but you are unsure what would be achieved by this practically.

The way I could see it working is if you could obtain both your blood and his blood and then work a spell around gradual dilution of the mixture until the water runs clear and your bond is washed away. Something like this would be very powerful. Using just your own blood seems a bit random and I don’t think your spell will be an effective one unless you are very clear in your own mind about why you are using blood, what specific purpose it plays in the spell and what outcome you intend to achieve with it.

My preference for unbinding spells is a very physical depiction of a break. Have you perhaps a vase or something similarly breakable given to you as a wedding present? A spell worked around the finale of smashing that would be suitable for your circumstances (as well as enormously satisfying, lol).

My best suggestion for you is that you use something to replicate the “whole” of your union and then work your spell around the separation of the whole into two halves. I like the idea of baking a loaf of bread for this purpose as while you are kneading it you can really focus your energies into it and make it a strong symbol of your marriage. If you have any of his toenails, hair clippings etc you can add them to one half of the loaf before baking and on the other half you can add something similar (or blood if you prefer) belonging to you. If you do not have anything personal of his then write his name on rice paper and bury it into his half of the loaf.
Once the loaf is baked construct your ritual around the breaking of the bread. I would then suggest that you take his half, crumble it and sprinkle the crumbs in several different locations so the parts are disparate and cannot combine to reform the whole. (I know a few witches who would extend this spell to consuming his half of the loaf so as to symbolise a conquest over him. I will leave that to your own discretion.)
That’s just what I’d do, you might come up with something different or better. You may even find a good reason for using the blood. What I will say to you though is if you are putting together a ritual make sure you understand the purpose and the symbolism of every part of it. Don’t just use something because it has inherent power, understand the specific role it is playing in your working. If you do that you can’t go far wrong!

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QUESTION - I've read on another site, 'Traditional Witch.net' that people say they weave a spell then if it's going of course they tweak it… or that they do magic all day long. I have only just found this path so I'm not sure which either means as I have only read Wiccan books which are very structured… with 5 children I don't find time to be structured… please could you help me with this. Thank you.

ANSWER - Hi, I am well acquainted with the site you mention and it’s actually in my opinion one of the most credible and intelligent sites discussing witchcraft on the internet. However it is important to remember that it is a community and as with any community there are differing views and opinions. What you have read will be the views of some witches certainly but will not reflect the views of all the witches as a collective.

I’ll come on to the idea of structure in a minute but first we will have a look at what is meant by tweaking a spell. It is a common practise to “check and test” any magic put in place and then make amendments as time goes by. Think of making a casserole for dinner. You’ll put the basics in first – meat and veg – but then you’ll taste it, add a little salt, some more herbs, a little more wine… and gradually you will “tweak” the meal until it reaches your specifications. It’s a similar thing with magic – a witch will establish the primary need and the focus of her intent but overtime she may increase the energy she puts into the spell, include more people in the intended outcome or use other areas of craft to support the spell.

Some spells do not lend themselves to tweaking – some spells are simple and performed with a simple intended outcome. It is workings that play out over a longer time frame that may be adjusted on occasion to keep them running to plan and in accordance with the desire of the individual witch performing the magic.
In terms of witches who structure their lives to do magic all day long – there may be a few but I have very seldom met anyone who devotes that much time to spell crafting. There have been discussions on the particular site you mention in relation to the fact that a witch is a witch 24/7 but this does not imply he/she is actively involved in practising magic during all their waking hours. I think the discussion relates more to the fact that being a witch is not something a person switches on and on. I do not decide to be a witch for a couple of hours a day, I am a witch all the time, I choose to practise witchcraft when I have a need to.
That said, magic need not always involve full and formal ritual. Witches who confirm they cast daily may be referring to a nod here, a sprinkle there, a blow on a dandelion in the breeze… Witchcraft is incorporated seamlessly into the life of a witch and his/her success is not dependent on how much time they put into it but in how effective they are at blending their craft with the demands of the mundane world. There is no such thing as a person not having time to be a witch – there is such a thing as a person not thinking creatively enough about how to incorporate magic and craft into the life they are already living.
Instead of thinking about changes you need to make and the time you don’t have to set aside to make them, think about what you already do and how those things can be tweaked to embrace your craft. A drop of oil in the washing machine to bless the children’s clothes? A stir in the dinner and a word to the Gods (if you believe in deity) to protect your family. Your own cleaning mixture to cleanse the aura of your home as well as the physical shell? Collecting pine cones with the children to hang from your windows to teach them about nature…

​I think you would be doomed to failure if you decide in your own mind that being a witch is something you have to devote hours that you don’t have to pursue it. Your success on this path will come from making minor “tweaks” here and there to the things you already do and learning to reinterpret and re-evaluate those daily tasks from the perspective of your craft.

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