ANSWER - I sometimes wonder if we in the Pagan communities are a little bit too fond of labelling ourselves and pigeon holing our individual paths with terminology that serves to define us but also to limit our beliefs.
Reading your question, the thing that really struck me was how free you sound as a person. You cross the barrier between the living and the dead, you play games with the wind... You sound like a true free spirit at peace with yourself and I'm actually quite loathe to suggest that you give yourself a title. You could pick one if you so chose but I wonder if having a title would constrain some of that freedom and take away some of the individuality of the path you are already walking.
You could if you like call yourself a witch or a pagan, you also have some druidic characteristics so none of those terms would be wrong but I do wonder if any of those terms are strictly necessary. Why not just evolve on your magical journey until one day a label that is 100% right for you (if any) turns up?
You ask what you are supposed to be doing but I actually think you are already doing what you need to. You haven't got your nose buried in a book, you're already starting to understand the natural world around you and you seem to have an intuitive grasp of magic. Keep on doing the things you are doing, focus on evolving your path, not forcing it. Do what comes natural and what feels right, perhaps try some different methods of utilising your will, possibly some formal spell work to see how that works for you and let yourself relax into habits and practices that suit your way of working.
A path isn't always something you find and follow, sometimes its the track you look back on and realise you were following signposts all the time but you just never knew it. That's following your intuition and in your case I think that will work better for you than any step by step guide based on somebody else's idea of what your path should look like and where your path should lead.
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