ANSWER – My first thought about your question was how do you know that you’ve been bound? Is it possible that it’s a psychological binding that’s naturally happened because you’ve been told it happened or is it an actual energetic binding that you know took place? I’ll begin with exploring how you can find out by yourself which it is and answer your question for both possibilities just in case.
An energetic binding has a subtle effect on the person being bound, with the most common symptom being that you feel stuck somehow but are unsure how or why. It can be felt and discovered if explored in the right way. Sit quietly focusing on your breathing for a little while and then, when it feels right, imagine yourself sitting in a safe place. Now take some time to explore your body from the inside, every inch of it. If you find that it feels like you are tied up in any way, then take a closer look at that area. Can you feel any ties of any kind? If you are bound it will feel as if you are tied around with something strong such as rope or wire that you cannot break by simply moving your body. It will move with you fluidly yet feel restrictive to your movement and may be centred on one area of your body or feel as if the whole of you is tied up somehow.
A psychological binding will feel much different and will appear to be a single tie attached to your body at one point then the other end will be attached to the person who started the creation of it in your mind – in this case probably either your Nana or your Mum.
The psychological binding can be easier to remove because although the idea was placed there by someone else, you’ve strengthened it through belief and that can be changed if you can change your mind. What you need to do is again sit quietly in meditation and follow the above that you did to discover what kind of bind you have. Once you have found the tie then you also need to bring in the other person that you are tied to by imagining a safe, circle area for them to stand in away from where you are sitting. They cannot do anything to you in this space, they are not able to step over the line created by the circle. Next you need to look to find the tool that will break it. Look around the space you are in and see if you can find the right tool – this can be anything from a pair of scissors to a lawnmower or even a flamethrower. Do not be discriminate and go along with whatever you have found that feels right to you. Cut the tie from the point it meets your body and then also from the body of the person it is attached to then destroy it. This can also be by any means that your mind needs so again don’t be discriminate, there will be a means of destruction within the space too just as there was the correct tool for the job. This can leave you with a hole that needs filling so imagine healing energy (usually white or golden in colour) filling the area and then do the same for the other person. Once it’s all done let them go from their circle and imagine them leaving your space altogether, then find your own way back from the space and into the real world. Don’t forget to ground and centre once you’re done by standing on the ground barefoot or eating something.
If you decide that it’s a binding that has been done by your Nana, or anyone else, the first thing I would suggest is to work the same spell again but this time instead of binding, you unbind. It’s not always possible to know what has been done though so here’s another solution instead.
This is a three-stage solution in which we clear you, the binding and your home to ensure the binding does not return in any way. Start with a cleansing bath, have it as hot as you can stand and add in salt, rosemary, basil and lemon peel. You can use either the essential oils or the herbs but be warned using herbs for baths can be messy to deal with! As you bath, visualise the binding loosening its grip on you then when you’re ready to get out, let the water go and visualise the binding slipping down the drain with the water and back to the earth.
Next, light an unbinding candle. Preferably using a red or black coloured candle, anoint the candle with the same ingredients as your bath. If you’re using the herbs you can make your own anointing oil for the candle by adding the ingredients to a base oil such as olive, hemp or sweet almond oil, otherwise you can do the same thing with essential oils or use them undiluted - but be careful, essential oils can be dangerous straight onto the skin so please wear gloves if this is your choice. Make sure you are prepared with a pen and piece of paper. Write down what you wish to be unbound from and place it under the candle before lighting. Once lit, repeat the wish you have just written down three, six or nine times depending on how deeply you feel the binding has affected you. Spend some time visualising the binding leaving you and how you will move forward in your life without it then when you’re finished leave the candle to burn down if you can do that safely and once it is, it’s time to begin the home clearing.
Open all the windows and doors if you can then take a bunch of dried sage or an incense such as temple incense (which is intended to keep sacred spaces clear). Light it and use it to smudge your whole house paying extra attention to corners and places where energy can gather and hide. Finish off with a thorough cleaning of your home, feeling free to use something like Four Thieves vinegar if you feel it necessary.
Once you’ve finished all of that, take anything left over such as the candle stub, your paper wish etc and let it all go into flowing water such as a river taking care to ensure that anything you do this with is biodegradable and not harmful to the environment or its inhabitants. Anything you have that can’t be disposed off in this way can either be burned or put into a bin far from home.
This should remove the binding and allow you to move on with your life free from the restraint it had over you.
I hope this helps with your problem one way or another.