QUESTION - I have been thinking negatively for a long time as I am in a weird relationship. He doesn't talk to me about anything ..sometimes if I ask I don't get the answers I am looking for. Recently we argued and he doesn't cuddle or make love to me in bed but he will cuddle me when he goes work and give me a kiss and when he gets home, otherwise I get nothing. Is there a spell for this please?
ANSWER - Relationships can be complicated things to manage and generally I’d say they are tricky enough without adding magic into the mix. This may be an obvious question but prior to asking witches on the internet for spells to make this relationship work have you sat down with this man and discussed your concerns with him? Have you explained why his behaviour is making you feel rejected and tried to establish a way forward that works for you both?
Spells may seem like an attractive quick fix but in truth I know of no witch who would leap straight in with the magic before making every effort first to communicate rationally with their partner. This situation, as with all love orientated magics runs the risk that if you do use magic to manipulate the feelings and emotions of another person you are then in a position where you can never be certain that any feelings toward you are genuine. This will eventually lead to resentment and likely the end of your relationship.
My advice is to tackle this head on and be upfront about how you are feeling. Put some time aside in a neutral environment (my husband always knows what’s coming when I suggest a trip to the pub!) and discuss things calmly. Give him a chance to tell you how he is feeling as well. Relationships are not all one way, if it isn’t working for you then chances are it isn’t working for him at the moment either. Talk it through together.
I don’t have a spell to “fix it” but what I would suggest if you want to use magic to help you resolve this is you do a working to encourage him to be open and honest. There are hundreds of ways you can do this but something simple that comes to mind is you draw his image on a piece of tracing paper and cut it out as a representation of him. Dilute a few drops of essential oil in a base (try peppermint, the mints are good for work of a clarifying nature) and gently brush the oil over your representation. Visualise his willingness to be open with you and your ability to see into his thoughts and feelings as the image slowly turns transparent with the oil. Dry the representation out and store it safely until after your relationship discussion.
QUESTION - I feel I am struggling because I read and see people say so many things about being a witch. My issue is there truly a difference with being a black witch ,grey witch,white witch. I am being puled in so many directions but feel the strongest pull to the as i guess would be called the dark arts witchcraft in general pagan and Wicca but not sure what groups would be right to learn it all i don't have an outside outlet.A strong pull to divination tarot and talking boards paranormal ,wizardry and so forth. Guess seeking answer's how can I know my true calling if i feel a pull to everything?
ANSWER - The term witch is a descriptor that means different things to those who practise the craft. The old joke goes that if you asked twelve witches to define witchcraft you would get thirteen different answers… Popular culture has further muddied the waters with the insistence that witches be depicted as either love and light “Glinda” types or evil ugly old crones. The truth of course is that witches are not nearly as polarised as Hollywood would like them to be. Witches are as morally diverse as any group of people.
It is too simplistic and also quite patronising to label witches white, black or grey. Any witch deserving of respect will employ her own subjective judgement to use her craft for what is appropriate in a given set of circumstances. This will usually involve the full moral spectrum. You do get witches who refuse to use what they term “dark” magic and good luck to them but anybody who intentionally chooses to place a limit on their own abilities is unlikely to be at the top of their game. Being a witch is as much about understanding ourselves as anything else and I’m afraid anybody who looks deep into their own psyche and sees only love and light is either deluded or lying to themselves.
You seem a bit confused about some of the terms you are using. Wicca is about as far from the “Dark” as it is possible to get. Wicca promotes strict moral laws, most popularly the law of harm none which (as it states) is all about using non aggressive magic. If you insist on using the term “white” magic then Wicca is the closest you will come to it.
Paganism and Witchcraft are also very different paths - Not all witches are pagans and not all pagans are witches. Paganism is an umbrella term encompassing a very wide variety of beliefs, paths and ideologies some of which may practise witchcraft. It is not uncommon to find an inclination toward paganism at the same time as developing an interest in witchcraft but it is important you understand the two need not necessarily be related.
You say you feel a strong pull toward all aspects of magic and the paranormal and that is not at all surprising. It takes a while to understand where your genuine interests and abilities lie and in the beginning everything does seem new and exciting. I think what you need to do is research a bit more into what witchcraft actually involves. Look beyond the surface of what non witches perceive a witch to be and do and read about why witches have chosen to follow their path and what they get out of it. Try to forget some of these stereotypes and the pigeon holing of black/white witches… Have a look at the list of witch blogs on this site – there are some very articulate and engaging authors on there who will illuminate this path for you and help you get it into perspective.
Your true calling will come to you but let it evolve naturally through a real understanding rather than throwing together discordant elements and ending up with a path that doesn’t ring true to who you are.
QUESTION - I'm trying to find 2 spells. One for weight loss and one for money. I want to lose 36 pounds and obtain large amounts of money.
I need something legitimate that will 100% work. If you can help I'd be very grateful.
ANSWER: This question perfectly illustrates the misconception of what a spell is in the minds of those who are not accustomed to working with magic. A spell is only as good as the person casting it. There are no books of spells that can be picked up and cast by a novice with guaranteed spectacular results. Working with magic is about hard work, practise and dedication. Magic also works best when combined with practical mundane efforts as these further strengthen the intention put into a spell.
I’ll give you an example of how this works with weight loss – My apprentice and I designed a weight loss spell. This was pretty simple, we each personalised a candle and used them to represent the excess weight we wished to lose. The ritual was very straightforward and involved lighting the candles once a week, realigning ourselves with the essence of the candle and what we were trying to achieve and then pouring away the melted wax each week while visualising the body fat melting away. Combined with exercise and diet my apprentice lost four stone and despite being the more experienced witch I am as fat as ever.
The reason for this is that spells require effort, my apprentice knew this and instead of channelling her efforts into asking for the immediate gratification of instant weight loss she focused on her spell work giving her the strength and will power to resist temptation each week. The efforts of the diet and the exercise were magnified by the spell work and the end results after a year have been nothing short of spectacular. In my case I didn’t put the effort into the magic or the mundane hence still being Mrs Bouncy!
So can I give you an example of a spell that will work 100% for weight loss? No. I can tell you that if you follow the same spell she did, aligning yourself with the candle, lighting it weekly, taking seriously the focus on what you want to achieve and backing this up with diet and exercise you will lose weight. But if like me you don’t bother to shore up the magical efforts with the mundane daily slog then forget it, you don’t want it enough.
Much the same with the spell to gain wealth. There is a paradox with material spells. Generally any witch with the power to pull one off would also be the kind of person not to set much store in the acquisition of money for the sake of it. Again, there is no quick flick of a wand type of spell to get rich. The only solitary exception to the magical quick fix is that if you advertised a spell to get people rich quickly there are probably enough idiots who’d buy it for you to get rich quickly. But I don’t recommend it, exploiting the naïve isn’t a positive way to live your life.
Incidentally exploiting the naïve is exactly what I would have been doing if I’d given you two “guaranteed” spells as you asked. Instead I have taken the time and trouble to explain why I don’t think you will find your answers to life’s problems in a spell book. That said – the candle spell may yield some results if approached in the right way and for a wealth spell I would make up a simple basic attraction oil and anoint your purse, bank statements and credit cards with it. Use an almond base oil with a few essential oil drops of orange and basil. Add a few basil leaves to infuse and stir into it your intention of what you want the money for. Try and progress your intention beyond just getting rich for the sake of it, focus on the projects behind the money – what are you wanting to move forward towards or escape from. The focus should be on the end goal not a mouldy pile of money in the bank!
QUESTION - For a beginner, What do you suggested the best way to get started would be? I am a hands on learner and have only a short attention span for written instruction.. how and/or is it possible for me to find a teacher?
ANSWER - I think it depends on how you view witchcraft. My own view is that being a witch is much more about bringing out what is already within than it is putting in what is not already there. So a teacher can be helpful but will only take you so far.They can help you identify which parts of yourself can be developed into practising a craft path but learning witchcraft is different to learning, say an academic subject where the focus is solely on the acquisition of knowledge. A craft path is much more about the knowledge of yourself, practising the self honesty of looking inward to understand your strengths and weaknesses.
That said, there is a lot you can learn from an experienced witch and with the advantage of the internet it is becoming easier and easier to meet people. Forums and Facebook groups are often a good place to start. Don't feel you have to commit to the first group you join, be upfront and acknowledge you are looking for one that sits well with you. Some groups and forums are not designed for teaching so be honest with what it is you are looking for and move on if your needs don't match those of the group. Be aware that there can be a lot of ego in witchcraft and some of the witches advertising teaching (or worse "witch schools") can be in it for the fuelling of their own self esteem rather than a well meaning intention to help. There are some reputable witches on Witchvox who sometimes indicate a willingness to work with newbie witches and this may be a good place to start if your preferred method of study is to work with a teacher.
Beyond that, I'm all in favour of a hands on approach. The best way to get a feel for the craft is to roll up your sleeves and get stuck in. Try something like the Element Encyclopedia of Spells to see some examples of spell work designed by other people. As you get more confident I'd always suggest writing your own work rather than copying anything out of a book but starting with some basic spell books will give you an idea of how magic works and what it can be used to achieve.
QUESTION - I'm a silly in love girl and I have been in a long distance relationship for 2.5 years and I been scouring everywhere for a spell for teleportation or at the very least mind linking or maybe even dream walking spells but I cant find one that works and I don't want to hurt any one I just want to see my lover and still go to school but I miss him super bad and he is going through a lot of hard times and I want to be there to comfort him but if I go to him I cant graduate and I don't want to rely on him to take care of me for the rest o fmy life. Please show me away to be able to see and be with him and still go to school. Skype isn't enough because I need to hold him and kiss his tears away.
ANSWER -No simple answer to this one I’m afraid. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but some of the things you mention belong in science fiction not in witchcraft. I believe teleportation has been achieved by scientists at the atomic level but there is still a long way to go, if ever, before it will be usable for humans and it certainly won’t be witches pioneering it. There are exceptions of course but as a general principle magical users do not get on very well with technology.The dream thing is more plausible and I do know a few people who can link up via the astral. I can’t do it myself at will but from what I’ve been told it needs a lot of practise. It would also involve both parties putting the work in. The linking together may well happen on occasion naturally but to actually meet up with someone intentionally via the astral plane isn’t a common ability even for most witches.
You probably won’t like my advice but I will give it to you anyway. Sometimes when we are young we get very fixated on the relationships we form, even to the detriment of our own growth as a person. Love can be a strong and addictive emotion and it is easy to push everything else aside to focus on the object of that love. However a relationship dependent on spending every moment together will soon fade out. What you have here is an opportunity to build independent lives for yourself while keeping a healthy relationship between you. Stick with your graduation and work toward building a future you can enjoy together. Don’t waste your time seeking out teleportation spells, they don’t exist but I can guarantee you’ll find some charletans who’ll try to convince you they do.
And Skype isn’t enough, no. Get out some good old fashioned pen and ink and write to each other. An image on the screen is meaningless. Exchange your thoughts in a medium that you can look on in years to come and remember together.
You’re not silly by the way, to be capable of love is a wonderful thing and something not everybody can achieve. Never feel ashamed of giving your heart to somebody. Just make sure you keep some of it back for yourself.
Question - What or who can steal your powers and magic? I met a guy who says he can steal power from a witch. But he can't steal mine because he said I'm too strong for Him. (We are very attracted to each other if that helps to tell who or what they are called)
The way you phrase this question suggests that you see the powers of a witch as something separate from him/her as a person but in point of fact this is not the case. Think of witchcraft as more like a talent or a skill that develops with time and practise. You wouldn’t “steal” a person’s ability to read or to sing and in the same way you cannot steal the experience and knowledge a witch has developed over the years.
That said, you can weaken a witch. Witches like anybody are susceptible to issues in their private lives - illness, depression etc. A manipulative person wanting to reduce a witch’s casting power might look for ways to distract their attention. Often a focus on mundane life can affect a witch’s ability to perform. I know if I have financial problems or work problems my ability to concentrate and therefore to cast is usually affected. But this is not the same as somebody “stealing” power it is just a natural reaction in any witch who is trying to balance her mundane life with her magical one.
If I’m really honest I think this chap is giving you a bit of a line because he fancies you. Full marks for effort on the romance front but a bit more research about witchcraft needed!
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