Question - I recently broke up with someone I've been with almost 8 years.I don't want him back but we do have children. This person does not think for himself at all and his family made sure he left the state because they don't like me they actually pay him 500.00 a week to stay the problem is when we do talk it isn't him the words are the words of his family members I just want peace to co parent without these people input is there a spell for this>?
ANSWER - There are a few ways this could be approached magically. The first would be looking at it from the perspective of a breaking spell. This would be severing ties between you and his family - the downside of course being that you may want your children to retain a relationship with their grandparents. If this is the case then you probably want to avoid breaking the relationship and the connection between you and it might be better to look at ways to reduce the influence their interfering is having on you. Something like a shielding spell may well work better, something to stop the negativity of the in-laws from actually reaching you in the first place. I do actually have a spell in mind and by personalising it, I think you may have some success with it.
Get a large bowl with a flat bottom and place a stone in the middle. Place a representation of yourselves and your children on the stone (poppet,plasticine figures or even something as simple as just your names written on a piece of paper) and fill the bowl with water so the stone is left mainly uncovered. Take a box of matches, light a match and visualise the flame to represent the interference you are receiving from the in-laws via your ex partner. Take the time to really establish the link in your mind and in terms of spell words, something like:
"Your words cannot preach
If they cannot reach
With peace I surround
As your negativity drowns."
Place the match in the water and push slowly toward the stone. The flame will of course splutter out. Repeat the symbolism for every different specific way they try to influence and manipulate you. Visualise their intent washed away and drowned in the water and yourself and your children safe from the sphere of your influence. Try and repeat regularly until you start to feel distanced from experiencing any negative feelings from their interference. Hold the visualisation in your mind when you are speaking to your ex partner, simply imagine everything that comes from the parents as being washed away in the water that surrounds the peace and safety that is you and your family.
Oh and tell this silly arse to get a backbone and stop acting as a mouthpiece for his parents. He's a grown man for goodness sake, tell him to start behaving like one.
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QUESTION - I just found out my (ex) sister-in-law has been given 5-15 months to live. she has brain cancer. I need a spell to cure her. Or at least try my best. She has 3 children, a husband, a business. Although she is no longer married to my brother, we still love her. She and my brother had 2 children together. The youngest died at 96 days of age. This family has seen enough death. Please help me help Melanie. Also if you don't mind saying a spell or 2 for her that would be so greatly appreciated. I can give you more info about her if needed. P.S. She was diagnosed 6/25/2013 so she may be running out of time :(
ANSWER - These kind of questions always cause me great sadness as it is with regret that I must tell you I do not have any spells that will cure a terminal illness. Healing in the world of magic is, at least in my opinion, primarily about reducing symptoms and also no less importantly about helping the family and the terminally ill person come to terms with what is happening. I'm not saying it would be impossible for an experienced witch with a good understanding of healing to slow down the symptoms and possibly to even eliminate the cause of cancer (I'm speaking hypothetically here - I know no witch myself who makes the claim that she has entirely cured a patient of cancer) but it would take a good deal more effort than working a single spell. If I claimed to be able to cast a spell over the internet without knowing your aunt personally, with no physical contact and no deep understanding of the specifics of the illness I would be nothing but a charletan. I have more respect for my readers than to offer what would amount to nothing but a placebo.
I say I am unwilling to offer a placebo but what I really mean is I am unwilling to offer a placebo to you under the guise of being an all powerful healing witch claiming the power to cure cancer.
To my mind a placebo is actually a type of magic in itself. It is harnessing the power of the mind and the belief of the individual to heal themselves. There are many many documented cases of people being healed because they believe in the treatment they have been given (This is essentially how homeopathy works). This is something that you may wish to look at but I would only be prepared to get involved with generating a placebo effect with your full knowledge that I am not casting magic of my own but rather stimulating the natural magic of your aunt's own power - the idea being that if we can generate something she believes in enough, it may well help her to fight back against the cancer.
In terms of sending strength and support with a blessing, this of course I am very willing to do. I am happy to lend my thoughts and energies to your aunt and to light a candle for her recovery. I will also send positivity to yourself and your family. It is important to understand this is not a spell for a miracle cure, more a blessing to hope that her comfort is eased.
I wish good health for your aunt and acceptance and peace for yourself and your family. If you would like to look at working a placebo charm please contact me again and I will be happy to help.
I was asked this question by a fellow witch the other day and it really got me thinking. In the end I decided to make a list. Not definitive of course but these are what I would aspire to before declaring myself powerful (the paradox of course being that if you look at item 5 on the list, no powerful witch would ever label herself that anyway....)
So, in no particular order...
1.Genuine belief in magic
A witch needs to believe beyond a doubt that magic will work. Any doubts, no matter how much she wants to think magic works, any doubts will blow her spells out of the water. In my opinion this is best demonstrated when a witch has a crisis. Does she rely on her magic? Does she turn to her spell book to sort things out or does she abandon her "hobby" of witchcraft and look to solve her problems with other means. An accomplished witch looks to utilise magic in all aspects of her life perhaps most of all when the going gets tough. (I do get a little fed up of hearing -I'll get back to practising as a witch when x,y and z are sorted out. A true witch willl be doing more practising than ever if x,y and z need sorting...)
You do need a certain amount of knowledge to make any claim to being an accomplished witch. I'm not a fan of reading through tome after tome of dusty esoteric wafflings but a good understanding of the basics is certainly necessary.
3. Practical Experience
I'd value this above knowledge. A witch who knows it all but practises nothing is a poor witch. I see the term witch more as a descriptor of what a person does than what a person is. It therefore follows that any witch who doesn't bother getting her hands dirty can have all the knowledge in the world but that knowledge isn't translated into ability and therefore into power unless she is doing something to demonstrate it.
An accomplished witch creates her own spells. Full stop. You can go a certain distance using the works of other people but a witch doesn't cross the line from novice to practioner until she has a good enough grasp of how magic works to design and craft her own spells. I'd encourage this from the very beginning to be honest. I have no patience with spell books or following other witches' workings. If you want a spell to work, tailor it to the specific circumstances and write the darn thing yourself.
Arrogance is inevitable in beginning a magic path. Its a heady feeling indeed when those spells start to work. But at the other end of the spectrum away from all the witches just beginning to feel their power are witches who know themselves and their power inside out. True power is not needing to shout about it. A truly, truly powerful witch knows that what she is going to do will work and she doesn't need to convince herself or anybody else of that fact. Watch for the witches who proclaim how powerful they are - chances are they are less powerful than those who choose to keep their power to themselves.
It rather goes without saying that in order to be considered accomplished at anything you need a fair degree of success in it. A witch whose spells don't work isn't really very much of a witch.
7. Confident in outcome
Magic works best when approached with a good deal of confidence. By this I mean a good deal of confidence in magic itself, not an inflated idea of your own personal prowess. An accomplished witch casts not on the off chance but with the absolute certainty that she knows what she is doing will bring about the desire effect. This is probably the most important demarcation between the novice and the proficient - the novice witch hopes that what they are doing will work, the proficient witch knows that it will.
QUESTION - I have three schoolage children, a full time job and I'm studying for a diploma in the evenings. I've practised the craft in the past and I want to do so again but I just don't seem to be able to find the time in the day to set aside for practising. Any ideas?
ANSWER - This will sound harsh but I'm going to quote a very good friend of mine to you- "If you want to do something enough you'll find the time to do it. If you don't have the time, you simply don't want it enough..." I've resisted this advice more than once in the past myself but this particular friend doesn't allow me to wallow in the self indulgent misery of thinking I haven't got time for all the things I want to do with my life. And you know what - she's right. I despaired of ever fitting in writing my novels what with the website, family commitments and the full time job but once she gave me the knowledge that I could do it I stopped asking the question "Can I?" and started asking the question "How can I?"
Which brings me to the other thing she likes to say (full of cliches this friend...) "You can't increase time, you can't reduce time, all you can do is shift it around a bit." Again, she's right. You have to look at your day and identify the dead time. Everybody has patches of time that they don't use effectively - identify where these are in your own day and vow to use them more constructively.
I think you would also benefit from looking at this problem from another angle. Being a witch is not necessarily something you set actual time aside to do. A witch incorporates her craft into her life not vice versa. Look at the things you do in your day to day life and think of what you can do to make those tasks more valuable and more fulfilling. A witch doesn't "clean" the house, she purifies and cleanes the house be it with oils and vapours, be it with a flick of the old broomstick or be it with intent, charms and chants. Same with cooking to give you another example - work a little magic into your cooking (or your sewing or the day to day business of your full time job.) Basically what I'm saying is that a witch doesn't necessarily do anything different, she just does the same things as everybody else but she makes them different by virtue of her purpose and intent.
You've got time to be a practising witch because you can do exactly as you do now and you need change but the attitude you are doing it with.
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Opinions vary massively on this. It's quite a contentious subject to be honest and the answer you will get will depend both on the individual and the type of witchcraft they practise. Wicca I believe has a formal period of a year and a day before an individual can be admitted fully into a Wiccan coven and very often a self dedication ceremony is required which involves the individual stating their intent and making a pledge to their deities.
Other specific traditions (both Traditional and Modern) will have differering requirements which may include study (either general or specific to that individual tradition), demonstration of ability or knowledge, dedication (to deity or to the secrecy of the individual tradition) or simply a long enough period of committed interest to justify taking the interested party forward.
While all of these restrictions can be valuable within a community, to my mind they all pertain more to the interests of the group the individual wishes to join than they do to the actual crossing over from a non witch to a witch.
I do personally believe that a certain formality is necessary in the making of a witch. I don't subscribe to the esoteric idea of indoctrination into secret traditions (and certainly not the degree system which seems to achieve very little other than making the self important feel even more self important) but I do believe that to effectively follow a craft path there has to be a definite demarcation, a parting from the old life and an embracing of the new. However I dislike the idea of the structure of this being imposed on an individual and if I were a novice witch I'd run like hell from anybody who wanted to design my crossing over ritual for me.
A witch knows when its time to make that break and take that step forwards and its important that the decision is hers and also that the method of taking that path is hers. Frankly if somebody told me they felt ready to practise the craft but didn't feel up to understanding their own ideas of formalising their path I'd tell them to give it a lot more thought because they simply wouldn't be ready to take the step. I don't care how long a person has been practising, if they aren't yet at the stage where they can write their own spells and rituals they need to consolidate their abilities before trying to progress further. Equally the length of time a person has their head stuck in a book wouldn't be a factor for me. If you know what you want and you know how to achieve it, it's silly to wait just because other people have an expectancy that you read your way through the witchy library first.
Don't get me wrong, the details of the crossing over may vary between individuals wildly. For some it may just be a very simple realisation that the path has been chosen, for others it might be a hugely ceremonial ritual. I'd regard the two as having no difference in merit but I do think it important that there is a specific point where you confirm to yourself that you are both ready to pursue the craft with the commitment it deserves and that you are willing to do so.
Speaking personally, I'm very fond of ceremonial magic and my crossing over was rather a dramatic work of art... Interestingly enough I had been practising magic for some time before but when I made that formal commitment to myself and my craft my own abilities sky rocketed. The focus, the determination, the dedication and the pledge to yourself and your craft can be key to helping you realise your own individual potential to being the best witch you can be.
The perception on this question will differ greatly depending on whether you believe a witch to be born or whether you believe an individual chooses to become a witch. The truth of course is more complicated than either answer would suggest. It is certainly my view that somebody who chooses to follow the path of the witch will have some inclination toward the craft before he/she decides to incorporate it into their life. This doesn't necessarily imply an established birth line or the ability to trace your ancestors back to finding evidence of actual witchcraft but it does mean that it is unlikely anybody ever leaps out of bed, throws on a magic robe and becomes a witch in the blink of an eye. There is undoubtedly some background preparation going on before any commitment is made.
In my view a person doesn't become a witch until they have articulated their intention to practise as a witch to themselves. I do believe that certain people have natural abilities and a predisposition to a craft path but unless these abilities are acted upon and worked with, to my mind that person isn't a witch. I would define a witch by what she does, not who she is. So it is not so much a case as knowing that you are a witch as much as it is a case of acknowledging the potential within yourself and recognising your genuine interest in following a craft path. So the things I would be looking for would be - interest in witchcraft, an ability to work magic or a belief in the properties of magic, an understanding of what following a craft path involves and an intention to make a commitment (to yourself, not necessarily to a deity) with regard to practising the craft. If all these elements were in place and a person chose to start incorporating witchcraft into their lives then I would certainly consider that person a witch.
To summarise my answer to your question - you don't know you're a witch, you know you have a desire to follow a path that will lead to you identifying as a witch.
QUESTION - Can you make me a witch too because I want to be just like you and cast spells for other people.
ANSWER - It isn't quite as simple as that I'm afraid. If it was everybody would be witches. But its great that you are so interested and have so much enthusiasm. Why not start by reading a few books on the subject and then start doing a few basic spells and see if it is something you enjoy doing and have an aptitude for. I'd caution that becoming a witch isn't something you just "become" its a path you choose to follow and one that will see your knowledge and abilities gradually develop as you progress. There may well come a time on your path when you choose to do a formal crossing over but that isn't something anybody can do for you and it isn't a ritual that gives you power, it is a ritual celebrating the powers you have already developed through your own hard work, learning and practise. I'm very much afraid that there are no short cuts to becoming a witch.
If I were casting a spell for this purpose I would be focusing very much on things associated with dryness. I might place a bowl of sand or a sponge under the child’s bed. Such a spell would be pretty simple, a dedication of whatever you choose to you to the purpose you intend to use it, for example:
“I place this dry sponge out of sight
To keep my child dry tonight,”
For the visualisation, imagine the sand or sponge absorbing the need for your child to go to the toilet. Visualise the child calm and sleeping peacefully and create a very definite image in your mind of the morning sun rising on the perfectly dry bed. Make a clear mental association between what you are doing (i.e. putting sand under the bed) and what you are going to achieve from doing it.
Right, that’s the spell work out of the way and I have to say I don’t think spell work is going to be your best solution here. With children sometimes the suggestion of magic can be just as effective as the real thing. If you can harness the belief of the child to work as a focus for your magic it will probably work better than casting a spell with your own intent. The trick is to get the child to believe. This isn’t employing magic as much as using psychology to create a placebo effect but I think in these circumstances this is what will work the best. There are a couple of different ways to do this. You could employ the idea of the “magic spray” where you fill a bottle with water, make a show of putting some drops of “magic” oil (lavender) and lightly spray onto the bed clothes with the explanation that the “magic” spray will keep the covers dry. You could also try giving the child a “charmed” bracelet and explain that as long as they are wearing it they will be protected from wetting the bed.
You could blend genuine magic and psychology by involving your child in the working of an actual spell and getting them to create their own visualisation of the dry bed. This depends of course on whether you wish your child to become involved in practising magic. The spell in my opinion would work better with the involvement of the child but you’re the parent and that is your call.
On a less directly magical level but nevertheless using the child’s own natural power – try stimulating their mind to hold images of contained water, bottles jars, anything that creates a sense of power and control over the liquid. Get your child to play at being a bottle and imagine themselves as firmly putting on the top of the bottle before bed. Remind them that they are in control over when they choose to release the liquid and that they will do so when they choose to and not before. Giving the child the sense that they can control their own bladder will create a desire in them to do so even on a sub conscious level and this may well lead to them naturally taking control over their night time urination.
I’d strongly suggest you try changing the child’s bedding to something “cute” and lovable, particularly if you can get an actual sheet for the bed with characters on it. Children will be less inclined to “desecrate” the bed if they perceive it as personalised. And make a big thing of the new bedding – make them feel proud of it.
I can’t remember where I got this from but I heard an excellent tale of a woman who told her nine year old daughter that it didn’t matter she wet the bed as only little girls wet the bed and big ten year old girls would never do such a thing. Unsurprisingly come her tenth birthday the child never wet the bed again. The power of suggestion, it’s a potent magic of its own.
Incidentally, I wet the bed a lot as a child and I distinctly remember it was because I was too tired to get out of bed. Make sure that your child is getting enough sleep and, without imposing punitive sanctions which will be entirely counter productive anyway, make sure that they are aware how tired it is making you to get out of the bed and change their bedding every night. Sometimes a little altruism will achieve what all the magic in the world cannot…
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This wasn’t a question submitted to the site, this was a question asked by a personal friend but I thought it worth sharing as the work we created and put into place has been successful in resolving the matter.
My friend has recently been suffering from nightmares and asked me what she could do to stop them from plaguing her. She’s quite magically savvy so she already has a dream catcher in place which she frequently smudges with sage to purify. She also bed hops a bit so I was confident the problem was with her rather than her immediate sleeping environment.
The answer I gave was to look at a way of removing herself as the target of the dream. We looked at dreams as being almost akin to a living entity and I asked her what she thought a nightmare would feed on if it was a living creature. We agreed that a nightmare would flourish on negativity, fear and despair. I instructed her to take a pebble and place it into an unsealed jar but before doing so to project those particular emotions into the pebble so they were removed from her and stored next to the bed in the pebble. In the morning after a nightmare free night she sealed the jar to keep the dream locked and brought me the jar. She’s repeated several nights in a row and avoided nightmares ever since.
The problem with this kind of spell is that it will eventually become very repetitive and the effort she puts into projecting her emotions will become routine. The less effective she becomes at giving the dream something to feed on, the more likely she is to go back to having nightmares. I wouldn’t advocate this as a bedtime ritual for that very reason but as a short term chance to get some sleep it’s worked very well.
In this particular instance my friend is giving me the pebbles as a jar of stored bad dreams will come in handy for some of my workings. For those of you without a friendly witch on your doorstep, simply dig a small hole in the garden, unfasten the jar, drop the pebble into the hole and bury it. Reuse the jar as often as you like.
You know what, reading back on this I rather get the feeling I’ve been influenced a bit by Roald Dahl’s perception of dreams in the BFG! But inspiration from any source at all is always welcome to a witch…
Can you? Certainly. Should you, well no, I don’t think you should. In my experience most broken hearts (and I’m assuming you are referring to hearts broken through love and not grief) are caused by the recipient of the love not returning it. What you have to ask yourself is – is that actually something you can blame them for? If somebody fell hopelessly in love with me, they would have very little luck indeed in whisking me off for a romantic adventure, I’m happily married and I’ve got a lot of work on at the moment. If my rejection left the poor beggar heartbroken I wouldn’t think it fair at all that they projected that misery back onto me. When a love affair breaks down it is very easy to look for a source of blame but in most cases there simply is no guilty party. You can’t force somebody to love you and you can’t get angry with them if they don’t return your feelings just because you want them to. Getting stuck in the rut of revenge and reciprocated pain will do little other than delay your own healing. My suggestion is that you put your energies into something more constructive like making your own life better, not damaging theirs.
There are however, I will acknowledge, times when a love affair breaks down because one person is at fault. If somebody has deliberately caused you emotional pain then I see no reason why you shouldn’t send that pain back to them. There are a myriad of ways this could be achieved. You refer to projecting back so I’m not going to look at hexes I’d rather focus specifically on the projection element. If you want to know how to do a hex, I’ll have something on it here already or ping me a separate question.
Ok, so projecting back. The simplest way is normally to use a mirror shield. Anything sent to you is reflected back to the sender. However that doesn’t work quite so well in this scenario as our heartbreaking friend isn’t so much sending malice your way as much as causing you anguish by his actions.
As ever I can only tell you what I would do if I wanted to work this kind of spell and as you can probably guess from the tone of the answer, this isn’t a spell I’d be all that happy doing anyway. I’m very comfortable with pinging back direct malice but if I am hurt by anything other than the deliberate intention of another person I usually just walk away. But if I were going to do it there are two ways I would do it. The first is quite simply a reflecting spell. Make a poppet of the individual in question and sit yourself and him in front of a mirror. Summon up all the anger and hurt that you feel and imagine the source of it flowing from the poppet into the mirror. Sit in front of the mirror centering those emotions inside you. Focus the emotions directly into the mirror and visualize them bouncing off the mirror and back into the poppet. You might ask why not just send them directly into the poppet but the purpose of this is that you are simply sending back what you have received. Any hurt that hasn’t come directly from the source won’t be sent back to the person represented by the poppet.
Incidentally this type of thing also works well for love spells and curses but with two mirrors creating the infinite mirror loop. As the energy passes between person and poppet bouncing back each time you can get the energies stronger and stronger growing each time they bounce between the two entities picking up greater levels of energy each time. Powerful things mirrors. Probably don’t suggest you play with two mirror spells unless you’ve got a good idea what you are doing.
The second type of working would be my preference as I like to work with tangibles. Take a bowl of water and add your blood and tears. Place your hands in the bowl and visualize all your unhappiness flowing through your body into the water. When you are empty of emotions take a poppet of the individual (make it of something absorbent, not plasticine this time, use cotton or cloth) and immerse the individual into the waters to absorb that pain and negativity into himself. If you’re feeling nice hang him out to dry, if you want him to suffer leave him in the bowl until all the water has evaporated.
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